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not all who wander are lost…

not all who wander are lost

My baby girl is a full time walker now. Having two kids who are full time walkers is exhausting, but the world as they see it, is so big and wide and wonderful. I can’t help but wish I could be that small again, just to see the world the way they do.
Believe it or not, that is my garden my little snow white is exploring. It’s grown so tall with plants and weeds that it looks like a jungle to her little eyes. She loves to wander around in there, touching flowers, playing with the hose, and seeing the giant zucchini that come from there. Blue Eyes used to be the same way… but while Snow White toddles around, Blue Eyes is busy in his little cozy coupe, pretending to be a race car.

My sweet babies aren’t so little. And while it’s easy for us to get caught up in the world of PCS-ing, moments like this remind me that as long as we are together, who cares about the upcoming stress of moving. These little moments are the life lessons I need to be reminded of. So while I’m stressing out, this adorable little girl is finding the true meaning of life.

Trying Home Remedies, Oil Pulling

We’ve all heard of the weird home remedies… hell we’ve all probably tried a dozen or so and are to ashamed to admit it.
That’s how I feel about this weird thing I just heard about.

Oil Pulling.

Sounds like somebody’s idea a sick joke. Let’s see how many poor ignorant dopes we can get to put some type of organic oil in their mouth for 20 minutes and then spit it out. I’ll admit, the first couple times I saw it, I laughed at the idea. But then curiosity got the best of me. What is this new craze?

If you don’t know by now, I do as much research as I can. And if I’m not happy with that, I start asking around. I found a all natural mom’s group in my area and asked a few of them about it. They all swear by it. I got claims of healthier teeth, pinker gums, better skin, less migraines. You name it. So I thought I’d give it a try. Can’t hurt for a couple weeks right?

Day 1: Felt no different. In fact, the Olive Oil really didn’t look any different either
Day 2: The same
Day 3: I notice my skin is actually breaking out. Sometimes we have breakouts as the crap is being pulled out of our skin, so Maybe I’ll keep trying.

Day 4: Okay, now I have to admit. I’m not normally a drinker, but the night before, I had more than a glass of wine. Not enough to be considered drunk drunk, but enough that I was feeling icky the next day. So I tried Oil Pulling again…. Can I just say, ew!
The olive oil was thick and cloudy looking. It was no longer a liquid, but a thick bile looking thing. And then I decided, maybe there is something to this home remedy after all.

Day 5: That’s okay. And while I didn’t notice anything more than the first couple days, my teeth feel slick. Like they do after the dentist. My skin is still blotched up, but it’s not so bad that I want to run and hide. I’ll try to get some pictures before I post this, but I think I’m going to stick it out. We’ll see what happens the next couple days.

Reason I’m crying….

Probably a year ago I ran across the most awesome blog every. Reasons My Son is Crying…. If you have kids, you understand. If you don’t have kids, you’ve seen kids like this…. and if you haven’t had either of those, you’ll get a good laugh anyways.

Blue Eyes has had a couple good meltdowns. The first time I tried to wash his blanket….. when I took his crayons away…
Tonight, I thought I’d share one of his current meltdowns.
Reason

Have a good evening!
-MB

5 Mistakes Military Wives Make

5 mistakes

I’ve been on both sides of the grass. Believe me, it’s not greener on either side. The military is a rough life. It’s rough for the military member, it’s rough for the spouse. There are however, a few mistakes that I see made all of the time. They are basic mistakes, but they can serious effects on your enjoyment of the military.

5. Never leaving base.

Believe it or not, there are women out there, who have never left base. They shop at the px and the commissary. They know exactly one person, and God help them if they ever had to go somewhere without their husband. The first two weeks we get to a new base I drive. I drive everywhere, see what’s there. For all I know, this is the only time I will ever be in that state or area. I want to know what’s out there. The military gives you amazing chances to travel. Take advantage of it! See the sights. Live! We’ve invited newer people over many times, you know the biggest reason they won’t come? We live off base. Why? Because it forces me to get involved. So get out there. Explore. Find the little mom and pop coffee shop that has the best coffee ever. Find the little craft store that has amazing prices, or hand made items. Enjoy it! You may never be in that part of the world again.

4. Expecting to have the same friends.

You had an amazing group of friends when you got to base. Time passed and now you look around, they are all gone. Then the blow comes, your spouse got another set of orders HERE! Make the best of it. Don’t let yourself become a loner. Get back to the basics. To make a friend you have to be friendly. Get out there. You are probably already involved with a group of some sort. From the gym, to walking the dogs, school for your children or a job. Any of the activities you do is the perfect opportunity to make new friends. So the next time you see someone you don’t mind being around, ask what their plans are for the weekend. Grab coffee, get out! You can do it. We got to this base almost six years ago, I have one friend left from my original group. So what am I doing? I found a facebook page for families and kids. Asked if people wanted to do play dates, take my dogs out to the park. At least there, I’ll meet a few animal lovers!

3. Spouse Pages are not bash pages!

What you say can come back and bite your husband in the a$$. Do not forget, your spouse is responsible for your behavior, and your bashing someone on a spouse page does get back to the Commanding Officer. Your CO has every right to kick your butt off of his base. You are not entitled to the benefits of military living. Your husband can end up in some serious trouble, and even be kicked out for your actions. Don’t believe me? There’s been several incidents on our base of that happening. I stood security long enough to “guard” those proceedings. If they will send a girl to military court over some dread locks, you can believe your command will send your spouse to mass for your disrespectful attitude. I’ve seen people loose their base passes over it.
What you say does get around. I know who on base to stay away from. I know whose husbands are on the hot list because their wife is out of control. Spouse pages are created to support each other, to let each other know what areas are good and what restaurants are terrible. They are for the spouses to connect and get information, and to learn what to expect while their spouse is busy. I know some high rank people who are on the spouse pages just to see what happens. They never say anything and you don’t know they are there, until your spouse is standing in front of them because of you.

2. Just because your husband doesn’t contact you, doesn’t mean he’s cheating.

This is one of the biggest insecurities I see in military wives. I know it’s hard. I know it’s lonely. I’ve been the one gone, I’ve been the one at home. I get it. Stop thinking that just because he is gone, he is cheating. Nine times out of ten, I’ve found that it’s the person at home cheating.It drives me nuts as a prior military member. There are times when the military will cut all contact, or times when they are so bone tired that it’s a choice between eating and sleeping. Contacting you? Not even in the picture. If your husband’s command is moving, forget hearing from them, it’s not going to happen. It’s for YOUR husbands safety, so stop bitching. I’ll admit it’s hard to be home, but have you ever been at sea? It’s hell. PERIOD. End of story.

1. You are not your husbands rank.

I can’t get over this one. I was at a restaurant with my family for lunch the other day. A group of military wives sat down at the table behinds us. Not a big deal, it’s great that these women have found friendship in such an unstable career. What I didn’t appreciate was their content. They were talking about some new girl they met and how her husband was a lower ranking sailor. Everyone starts out at a low rank. Don’t forget that! This poor girl would never really fit into their click, just because her husband didn’t wear the right rank. NEWSFLASH: your supporting you husband in his career does not entitle you to treat other people like crap. I’m glad you support his career, but you do not serve in the same way. You are not entitled to treat people badly because their husband is at the beginning of his career. We don’t all carry Coach purses. We don’t all have the perfect dressed kid. We are all military wives. Don’t you remember how hard it was when your military man was gone? Everything was new, everything was scary. Stop being stuck up and help the poor girl out.

Body Image

Mr. Blue Eyes always ready for the camera

Mr. Blue Eyes always ready for the camera

I’m so happy with my kids doctor. He is a really good pediatric doctor. Today was miss bug’s four month check up. Can you believe it? She’s already four months! Both of my kids have been healthy as can be, but they are on the light side. Blue eyes is always in the lowest portion for weight and highest for height. Miss bug is just small all around. The first doctor we had for little man kept telling me I had to put more weight on him and I wasn’t feeding him enough. Just while we were at the doctors, he would go through an 8 oz bottle with cereal in it. The doctor would try to tell me he wasn’t eating enough. Do you have any idea how much formula blue eyes used to go through? Blue eyes just doesn’t gain weight. Needless to say, I changed doctors quickly. Thankfully our doctor now understands that. He says as long as they grow at a steady rate for them, he doesn’t worry. Both kids are very very light, and have fast metabolisms.

You have no idea how much I prayed that my kids would get hubby’s metabolism. I like the way I am, for the most part. I have learned to be happy with the body I have and to appreciate the things that make me uniquely me. But I didn’t want my kids to have to go through their teenage years the way I did. I wasn’t really overweight, but I got chunky before I got tall, and I had a woman shape before any of my friends did. So I could never switch clothes or shop in the same stores they did. I appreciate it now, but at the time, it was really hard. Thankfully I had a mom that liked classic styles, so I learned really early to pick clothes that I could wear for years to come.

That doesn’t mean I want my kiddos to face the same things. I really hope I can teach them how to appreciate how they look at every stage. How to keep themselves healthy and active. Not so they look like a rail thin, but so they can have energy and a life. Believe me, I am struggling with that now. Two kids in two years, I’ve gained some weight that I’m struggling to get off. That and the migraine medicines made me gain a little bit of weight. So I’m hoping for my kids the same things I need to tell myself. I don’t have to be rail thin. I just need to get my butt moving! I need to get some of the extra weight off so I can keep up with two kids. I want them to enjoy camping and hiking, and I don’t want to die trying to keep up! Well that, and I don’t want them to get to go on adventures with daddy while mommy stays home. I want to be part of their adventures too. One day at a time! I mean my baby girl is only four months. It’s okay that I haven’t lost all the baby weight yet. It’s okay that my jeans are still about five pounds to small. I’ll get there. I just need to keep eating healthy and get my butt active.

10 things Boy Meets World Taught Me About Life

One of my favorite quotes

This post has been a long time in coming. There are reruns of Boy Meets World on every evening. Watching them reminds me of all the lessons I learned from them.

1. Faithfulness and Loyalty

You won’t see faithfulness like Cory on TV anymore. It seems like no matter what the situation between him and Shawn or Topanga, he stands fast through the whole thing. He believes in them when nobody else does, and his first love is his only love. He is willing to put the work into his relationships and stands with them even when it’s not the easiest thing to do.

2. Its okay to be smart.

Topanga was on the verge of being a major nerd. She strives for perfection in her grades and her life. She is okay with being smart and still takes pride in her appearance. In one episode she even chops her hair off to prove her point. What characters on TV do that now?

3. Where you are from doesn’t define you

An ongoing theme in Boy meets world. Shawn is constantly faced with where he came from. Despite having a rocky family and past, his family, deep down he has a heart of gold and always finds his way back. The older he gets the more his good heart comes out.

4. Drinking isn’t cool

As a kid it’s so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing. I remember watching Boy Meets World and realizing that drinking doesn’t make you cool and sometimes it can bring out the worst in people. Seeing people I looked up to deciding not to drink was a big influence to not drink.

5. Work for what you want

Chet works as a janitor in one episode. It was his first honest job, and Shawn learns that it doesn’t matter what the job if it’s done to the best of your ability. Constantly the kids are shown coming up for ways to earn what they want. They are seen doing odd jobs, working in the college lounge and even earning their living when they first get married. The parents tell their kids no and later explain that the things earned are always the things that last. Something kids today are sadly lacking.

6. How Classic Literature can still apply

Every so often they put classic literature into a modern form. Sending the characters back in time or allowing them to dream. It catches your attention. I have to admit, I read several books simply because the characters on TV did.

7. Politeness

It never fails that Cory is polite. Sometimes that lands him in trouble, like dating a bad boy’s sister and being offered to marry a guy’s daughter for 1 million dollars. It was ingrained into him to treat people with respect and chivalry.

8. Change is scary but good

Everyone in life faces change. A lot of people freak out at it. In one episode Cory is faced with Shawn’s decision not to go to school and Topanga getting into a better college than him. He freaks out, but in the end he realizes that they will be okay. That just because things are changing, doesn’t mean that it’s not a good thing.

9. Premarital Sex is a big decision.

Topanga decides that she is going to wait for marriage to have sex. It’s a very real, lingering issue in several of the episodes. She doesn’t give in just because it’s not the popular belief, or Cory sometimes pushes. She stands up for what she believes and stays true to her morals.

10. Life is tough, get a helmet

Enough said!

 

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